Benefits of doing things alone
Life is too short, time is too valuable and you are too blessed and able to wait on someone else to enjoy your life.
Have you missed a vacation because it never made it out of the group chat? Ever been ready to step out Saturday night but someone cancels on you 1 hour before so you stayed home. Maybe you wanted to workout and the person you ask to join you said, “no thanks” so you did not go. Turning down experiences, faking on yourself and waiting time you can not get back is no way to live. You keep telling yourself, “next time” but next time comes and goes 100 times. If this is you, it is time to step out and get out by yourself.
I get it, the thought of going to eat alone, a concert or vacation alone is scary but it is all in your head. You are overthinking and fearful of the unknown in a negative way. Thinking about “what if this” or “what if that” happens will only hold you back in life personally and professionally. The more to keep telling yourself “I can’t go by myself” the strong you will begin to believe that. You will being to lean on other people more than you are leaning into yourself. It will stop you from toning, stretching and sculpting mentally and physically. Here at Fit Life Lit Life we are BIG on showing up for ourselves. Sometimes showing up looks like getting dress, smelling good, washing the car and take a ride to that new restaurant on your list.
Continue reading down below to find reasons that could be holding you back from going out solo, benefits of going out solo, what it can do for you and motivation you need to step out.
What could be holding you back from going out alone? 🌎
Nobody to go with.
Fear something bad might happen.
Thinking people are looking at you.
Afraid a stranger might talk to you.
Not feeling confident in your skin.
Fear of feeling awkward/stupid.
The thought of sitting alone thinking “What am I going to do?”
Shy.
Carrying a can’t do attitude.
Fear of being judged by others.
Thinking you will not have a good time.
Fear of getting lost.
Comparing yourself to others likes (couples, groups, parties)
Fear of trying new things and breaking old habits.
Being stuck in your comfort zone.
What happens when friends cancel? You go anyway.
What happens when your date cancels? You go anyway.
What happens when nobody wants to go? You go anyway.
What happens when everyone’s schedule is different? You go anyway.
What happens when they don’t have a babysitter? You go anyway.
What happens when they can’t take off work? You go anyway.
What happens when they have no money and you do? You go anyway.
What happens when your hair is freshly done? You go anyway. The 3-5 days of new hair are the most important
What happens when they don’y want to go to the specific concert? You go anyway.
At this point, I’m sure you understand the action and answers. Say it with me, You Go Anyway! You are blessed with the life, time, money and transportation honey. Get out of your head, get up and go.
Look at it like this, if you spend your whole life waiting for someone else to enjoy your life you will be waiting forever. You will miss out on experience, opportunities and so much more.
Benefits of going out alone & what it can do for you: Solo Yolo
Confidence glows from within. Your confidence will grow through your experience.
You motivate and inspire others.
Meet new people. Yes, people won’t to talk to you and meet you because you are doing something they maybe afraid to do or they are solo themselves and are open to make a new connection.
Wear your clothes. Yes, pop those tag, wear those clothes and buy new close. You are the occasion. You are the celebration.
Discovers your likes more. Learn more about what tickles your fancy.
Be on your own time. Yes, take your time doing whatever it is you want to do. Leave early, arrive late or hop around.
No commitment to anyone.
Build self-awareness. Just because you are solo doesn’t mean you are slip’n, You always keep your eyes and ears to everything around you. Never being fearful just alert and aware.
“What if” goes out the window over time. “What if I look weird?”, “What if everyone is looking at me?”, or “What if I don’t know what to do?” Yes, if you look good and that confidence is shining bright you will turn a few heads and that okay. Just say, “Thank you” to any compliments and keep it moving gracefully.
Positive “What if” happen. Yes, these happen while you maybe getting ready. “What if I meet someone new?”, “What if What if I find a new hobby?” or “What if find a new spot to frequent?” This are things that happen.
Becoming comfortable with your own company on a different level.
Problem solving skills increase.
Social skills increase.
You learn to navigate places by yourself.
Learn new things. Yes, this stretches, tones, sculpts and builds your mind.
The time is now! No faking on yourself. Not putting yourself last or on the back burner. You can start BIG or small but start somewhere. Big or small it all counts towards your wellness, fitness and life living. Pop on a cute activewear set and hit a trail or hike. Get dressed real cute and swing by a hotel lobby to do some work. Visit a museum, art gallery and take yourself to dinner. Lunch at a new restaurant and a movie. A cute grown and sexy speakeasy would be nice. Take your fears and feelings by booking a flight somewhere. Yes, a vacation is calling you. It is okay to start somewhere familiar as well to get comfortable.
The mind is a powerful thing. A very strong muscle that has a lot more power than we realize. Your mind will trick you out of doing you 100 times over. It will stop your from getting out and tell you to stay home. You have to be stronger than that. If you have to plan ahead, do that. Remember, it is okay to invite someone but if that someone can not go, you are going anyway. Your life is a blessing and it is to be lived. You work hard, adult harder and deserve to treat yourself. Come on now!
Remember, always be careful and cautious. Think stranger danger is you must and always follow your first mind but do not move in fear, do not be fearful of other humans and enjoy the moment. Let your confidence shine. A loud sound of confidence horns out to the world when you are out by yourself. Your energy and the way you carry yourself does the talking before you say a word.
Down below share some tips you enjoyed that motivated you, your next solo outing and/or solo trips plans and goals you have within the next year. Thanks for reading. Please share and I’ll talk to you on the next one.
